Children who are angry, cry, tantrum or lose control and destroy things will make parents feel tired and embarrassed, especially when in public. In fact, your child's anger is inherently a form of emotional crisis, which will gradually decrease as the child grows older and becomes more aware. However, parents still need to pay attention, educate and guide children to reduce negative reactions early on, to avoid this action becoming a habit when their children grow up.
So, what should parents do when their children have tantrums? Is yelling at your child to be quiet an effective solution? Let's refer to this article to find the cause and the most accurate treatment!
Why do children from 1 to 3 years old often get angry and lose control?
Surely everyone has heard the term 3-year-old crisis, also known as Tantrum. Toddlers between the ages of 1-3 often experience a Tantrum crisis. This is the phenomenon of emotional outbursts expressed through crying, screaming, or even hitting people or destroying things in children. Sometimes some negative behaviors occur during anger, such as self-harm.
Children may throw things to express their anger
In fact, Tantrum crisis often occurs in both boys and girls. However, parents can easily see that not all angry children release their anger by throwing a tantrum. That's because your child's personality will be influenced by the family as well as the environment in which he or she lives.
From 1 to 3 years old, babies are developing emotionally, language and social skills. Children are still not able to express their feelings and needs accurately. Therefore, children easily fall into a state of indescribable discomfort and frustration, which will lead to anger. To make it easier to understand, your child's anger is also the way he or she is expressing his or her emotions at that time.
When can I become angry?
Parents should pay attention to cases where their children become angry to teach them appropriate ways to express themselves, thereby perfecting their child's emotional quotient (EQ).
- Children cannot have their own things, such as candy or toys
- Children are forced to listen to their parents and not do what they want
- I want to attract adults' attention and want adults to do what I want
- The child has difficulty expressing emotions or solving problems, for example another child takes a toy away but doesn't know what to do.
Parents need to understand when their children are angry to find ways to handle it
Sometimes, the reason children are angry comes from their parents, so you also need to avoid situations that can "trigger" your child's anger, such as: stopping your child from crying by yelling at him or taking him away. Passing by a snack stall that your child likes but doesn't buy for her, asking her to help with housework even though she's very tired...
What should you do to limit your child's anger or loss of emotional control?
Anger in children between 1 and 3 years old is unavoidable. Although we cannot prevent it completely, there are still solutions that can be used to make both parents and children comfortable.
Stop anger with distraction
When your child gets angry, you can try distracting him with another more interesting activity. For example, if your child wants to jump on the sofa, you can pretend to ask them to cook a meal by giving them help cooking by giving them a toaster . Then, praise your child for doing well so that he or she forgets what you are asking for.
Your baby will play with the toaster until he forgets his anger
You can also make your child "forget" what he wants to do by changing the environment, such as taking him outside or carrying him to another room. Removing attention immediately will calm your child's anger, reducing the number of times he or she gets angry .
Create reasonable living habits
You can set up a routine so your child knows which needs will be met at what time. Parents should try to stick to what has been planned, including their baby's sleeping and eating times because Because children will easily become impatient if they don't have enough rest time or are hungry.
Give your child the right to choose
You can let your child choose some small issues in life. For example: "Do you want to wear a skirt or pants?", "Do you want to eat apples or grapes?". This helps children feel respected, thereby limiting children's anger . Parents should also avoid saying no to anything their children ask for, as this will lead to more negative reactions.
Praise your child when he is obedient and knows how to speak his mind
When your child acts according to your instructions, give him compliments and let him know that you are very proud of him with encouraging words like: "Today you know how to call me when you're hungry. So good!", "Thank you for waiting for me to cook.", "You're so good that you share your toys with your siblings."... This helps children understand and will be "diligent" in expressing their feelings. more yourself.
Compliments will be a great encouragement for your child's emotional development
Anger in children is a very normal thing in their development, because they do not know how to express their needs. So parents, please be patient and tolerant when your child is having a crisis at the age of 3. Parents' companionship is the greatest encouragement when children encounter difficulties. Don't forget to visit Mykingdom's Handbook section to learn more useful parenting tips.
